I’ll begin this by admitting I’m a fraud. Before you read any of the following words, I should mention I can’t know exactly what you’re going through, since I am in a relationship. But I’ve been single too. And I remember my own experience. It could hurt you deeply… or you might feel happily single – just like some of my Instagram friends whom I absolutely love and admire.
However, I remember my own experience being single, introverted, and highly sensitive on Valentine’s Day. And I like to think I’m a good observer.
The Problem with Valentine’s Day
I’ve always and will always romanticize the idea of love. I’m an absolute dreamer—that kind of a strong believer in true love’s kiss. I do like Valentine’s Day for the idea of celebrating love.
Yet, I hate Valentine’s Day for the invading discounts, for the forced concept that you must buy stuff in order to prove your feelings, and especially for making some people feel more lonely than usual.
For some, just like any other holiday, it comes with pressure: you should be in a certain way, and you should do what everyone around you seems to be doing. Otherwise, you’re missing out. How WRONG!
If you’re feeling lonely on the 14th of February, would your feelings change knowing that some couples manifest a trace of love ONLY on that day?
Believe it or not, that is a fact. If you suddenly see couple goals everywhere, consider there’s more than what meets the eye. Would it even make sense for you to feel worse because of possible charades?
Don’t get me wrong. Of course, there are also happy, healthy couples out there. All I’m saying is that it’s not always the case.
Happily Single, Introverted & Highly Sensitive
If you learned to be alone and enjoy it (even occasionally), congratulations! You’re stronger and in a better position than most couples in which partners let happiness depend on one another.
Don’t let the 14th of February come with pressure. You don’t have to celebrate it romantically. You don’t have to make it count. But if you decide to enjoy it, make sure you do it your way. You know yourself best, so it’s up to you to decide what to do. If being on social media makes it worse, avoid it at any cost. If music makes you happy, prepare that epic playlist. I know people who turned in into Palentine’s and spend the day in the company of good friends. I know others who do movie marathons. To each their own.
You don’t have to turn it into an epic day, but please know that you deserve to live happy moments.